Whether you are about to have children or already have, you would probably be going through parenting blogs, reading parenting magazines, talking to family and friends, seeking out professional advice etc…
When your child was young, you listened to the professionals for advice, and you listened to your mum’s advice. Then a friend would share her experiences and another would contradict the earlier advice and shared hers. Some people say your baby should be held, and some say to let it cry…Some will tell you your toddler needs “time out” as discipline,while some experts will tell you it is not a great idea…
When you have school aged children, if your child needs help with his or her school work, you are thinking of using an external tutor for assistance. However, the child’s teacher disagrees and tells you that it is a phase. Your friends will say that it is pushing your child to do more than he or she needs. On the other hand, your gut instinct is worried that if you leave it too late, your child may be falling behind with his or her work.
Are you confused right now?
You see, we, that includes your family members, your neighbours, your friends within your circle, were all brought up differently. They have their own life experiences, which may be totally different from yours. With different life experiences, naturally they perceived and experienced things differently than you; therefore, their opinions are based on their own life experiences and not yours.
You are your child’s closest person/carer – your child’s parent. You know your child better than anyone, and you would know what is best for your child. Believe in yourself, as you will instinctively know what is best for your child and your family, despite the numerous pieces of advice out there.
Trust your instinct, trust your gut
If you need a tutor for your school-aged child, go get one. If you want to hold your child tightly when he or she is down with a bad temper tantrum, do so.
You do not owe anyone any explanations for your actions, as long as you know that you are doing your best, and in your child’s best interest.
Trust your instinct! You know more than you are willing to believe. Don’t just believe that you are new to parenting, and you would not know, but deep down you know you do know what feels right!
Find the confidence within you. If you need to, read up parenting blogs, or seek professional help, but by the end of the day, you must do what is best for your child and your family – and deep within you, you have the answers.
Believe that you are doing your best, and trust yourself for it.